Six Month Anniversary

It is six months since I started this blog and a lot has happened in that time.  I signed up for online dating and then started this blog as a way to get over Guy 0.  I signed up for the online dating partly because I knew he disapproved of online and started the blogging as a way to share the funny stories of the crazy people I met.  While there have been funny stories the blog became a useful way to work through the situation with Import-export guy.  Given that I’m in the process of moving on from him it is another reason a review is timely.

These days I have been feeling really positive and starting to focus on the future and what I want from life.  In a funny kind of way I think both these guys helped with that.  Looking back I think after my Dad died I went into survival mode.  Focused on helping Mom, then finishing my studies, then settling back in South Africa.  Guy 0 came along at just as I was starting to think about the future and what I wanted from life.  So I benefited from this relationship because it got me back in the dating game and he did provide great support during a time when my sister was driving me mental due to building work.

Import-export guy came along just after I returned to South Africa from a holiday in the UK.  After being away for a while it is always difficult to get back into the routine of work.  Plus I had the additional challenges of worrying about the removal of my wisdom tooth and trying to get over Guy 0.  Talking to Import-Export guy brightened up each day and gave me hope.  We had a lot of fun and I enjoyed getting to know him.  So this relationship was good for me because it helped me get through a difficult time then start to figure out what I actually wanted from this round of dating and what I need to do to get it.

All the experts say that you are not supposed to start dating, especially internet dating when your confidence is low.  So there is a certain irony in the fact that I have used internet dating to restore mine.  Perhaps that is more down to this blog providing a means to work through my feelings.  I used to scribble these things on paper but it is not the same as a blog.  For me at least there is a process to organising my thoughts into a post that others can follow.  I need to consider how much I am willing to share.  Particularly with more recent posts, knowing these posts will go public has made me focus on the positive aspects of each situation.  I was surprised at the time how much using  the “Open letter” post ( to vent my anger helped me to feel better.  This blog also helped me to organise my thoughts and decide on a plan of action such as my “next adventure” post (  Hopefully you found some of my posts interesting and amusing such as my “Daddy Hunt” post (

I like my blog.  I like being able to look back and see how much things have changed for me this year.  I like being reminded of some of the funnier things that happened and the interesting people I have met along the way.  I’m excited because tonight I have a date.  The more I get to know this guy the more I like him.  I plan to take things slow.  There is another guy I also like and some other interesting possibilities.  Life is looking good.

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