It is six months since I started this blog and a lot has happened in that time. I signed up for online dating and then started this blog as a way to get over Guy 0. I signed up for the online dating partly because I knew he disapproved of online and started the blogging as a way to share the funny stories of the crazy people I met. While there have been funny stories the blog became a useful way to work through the situation with Import-export guy. Given that I’m in the process of moving on from him it is another reason a review is timely.
These days I have been feeling really positive and starting to focus on the future and what I want from life. In a funny kind of way I think both these guys helped with that. Looking back I think after my Dad died I went into survival mode. Focused on helping Mom, then finishing my studies, then settling back in South Africa. Guy 0 came along at just as I was starting to think about the future and what I wanted from life. So I benefited from this relationship because it got me back in the dating game and he did provide great support during a time when my sister was driving me mental due to building work.
Import-export guy came along just after I returned to South Africa from a holiday in the UK. After being away for a while it is always difficult to get back into the routine of work. Plus I had the additional challenges of worrying about the removal of my wisdom tooth and trying to get over Guy 0. Talking to Import-Export guy brightened up each day and gave me hope. We had a lot of fun and I enjoyed getting to know him. So this relationship was good for me because it helped me get through a difficult time then start to figure out what I actually wanted from this round of dating and what I need to do to get it.
All the experts say that you are not supposed to start dating, especially internet dating when your confidence is low. So there is a certain irony in the fact that I have used internet dating to restore mine. Perhaps that is more down to this blog providing a means to work through my feelings. I used to scribble these things on paper but it is not the same as a blog. For me at least there is a process to organising my thoughts into a post that others can follow. I need to consider how much I am willing to share. Particularly with more recent posts, knowing these posts will go public has made me focus on the positive aspects of each situation. I was surprised at the time how much using the “Open letter” post (https://romanticadventuresblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/04/an-open-letter-to-the-ex/) to vent my anger helped me to feel better. This blog also helped me to organise my thoughts and decide on a plan of action such as my “next adventure” post (https://romanticadventuresblog.wordpress.com/2017/09/25/preparing-for-the-next-adventure/). Hopefully you found some of my posts interesting and amusing such as my “Daddy Hunt” post (https://romanticadventuresblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/09/daddyhunt/).
I like my blog. I like being able to look back and see how much things have changed for me this year. I like being reminded of some of the funnier things that happened and the interesting people I have met along the way. I’m excited because tonight I have a date. The more I get to know this guy the more I like him. I plan to take things slow. There is another guy I also like and some other interesting possibilities. Life is looking good.
Heartbreak and Hope 