It is rather sad to think that my last date was at the beginning of December. I haven’t heard from Accountant guy since he suggested that we should meet again. I thought he would contact me a few days later to move things forward. Perhaps he is waiting for me to make a suggestion about what we could do. I’m not really sure. I thought about contacting him a few days ago but I don’t really know what to say. The longer the silence lasts, the more I think that this thing isn’t meant to be. That means messaging to say I don’t want to meet. Isn’t that implicit in the silence?
The first challenge is finding someone I consider interesting enough to message. Recognising that interracial dating has challenges severely limits my options. A census in 2011 put black Africans at 76%, while whites make up a mere 9% of the population in South Africa. Interestingly the guy from my post on interacial dating still wants to meet for coffee. More specifically he messaged to say he would be in town for about a week. That week is almost over and I still haven’t heard from him. I can’t say I am particularly upset because he is very good at annoying me, first by trying to tell me what to think, then expecting me to drop everything to talk to him.
An interesting follow up to the issue of interracial dating and culture. A black Frenchman I was talking to a few days ago has also found that black South Africans take themselves way too seriously.
There is also a challenge around keeping the conversation going. Over the Christmas period I had a few interesting conversations and was hoping things would go further. We have one or two nice conversations and then they go quiet. This seems to be particularly true of the guys on Tinder. I think perhaps I should revisit these conversations and see if there is anyone I would like to stay in touch with. Maybe I will drop them a message and see if they respond. Having said that I can’t help thinking that if they were really interested then the conversation would have continued.
It seems like it is always the same faces on Tinder and Badoo. Maybe with Valentine’s Day approaching some new people will join these sites. I have also been trying out a few new dating sites. Perhaps that will yield some new prospects.