Spring is here again bringing with it feelings of optimism which leads to a renewed focus on making the most of life. While this year’s focus is on improving my work situation and figuring out options for being able to see more of IT Guy, last year I was more interested in reassessing my approach to online dating and trying to be more social.
Online dating has a rather bad reputation but like many things in life there are positive and negative aspects. The fact that many sites are all about looks gets a lot of press but let’s be honest most guys will only talk to a woman in a bar if he likes how she looks.
Part of the challenge is approaching online dating in the right way and knowing when it is time to take a break. You need to accept that a lot of your time will be spent dodging wierd people and scammers. There are a few examples where I decided to have a bit of fun with romance scammers as a way of staying sane. There are others who have turned this into an art form.
Spring seems like a good time to reflect on the positive aspects of online dating. I have met a few interesting people and had some interesting experiences. I have met a few reasonably decent guys even if there was no chemistry and they did not know how to express this in a good way. I met someone working in a similar field to me and while we have never met he is useful to know and has contacted me a few times for information. Online dating provided an opportunity for career related networking. I have made friends with one of the guys I met through online dating.
There are also benefits with a slightly more distant link to online dating. Import-export guy making me feel like I should be doing more around the time time as my preferred sports class kept getting cancelled led to me finding a nice local Pilates class. An old school friends also attends the class. We have been out a few times and making plans for tomorrow gave me the inspiration for this post.
Perhaps most importantly of all is the fact that all of these experiences and the related decisions to make the most of life is what gave me the confidence to ask an old friend for his number. I thought it would be nice to try and stay in touch even though he lives in Dubai and look how well that is working out.
So what I would say to anyone thinking of trying online dating is that you should give it a try. There are blogs and websites which offer some great information and advice, I recommend starting here. Just try to keep a positive outlook and an open mind. But above all stay safe and don’t give anyone any money.